Monday, May 14, 2007

In Memory of my Mom.

My mom passed away several years ago but I can still hear her, still see her in my mind's eye. She was a natural red head, blue eyes, damn near perfect teeth (wish I'd inherited those teeth!) and had fiery temper. In her later years, she was a little overweight but she was still beautiful. The thing I remember most about her was her work ethic.

She only went to grade school and had to drop out of 6th grade when she ran away from home after being beaten by her dad. She ended up working for an aunt, taking care of an invalid cousin. She stayed there until she was about 15. Then she met my dad and they got married.

There were only a few times I remember that she didn't have an outside job. But even working outside the home, she always made sure we kids had what we needed whether it was food or care or what have you. And she always emphasized getting an education.

You see, that lack of schooling made her feel inferior. Though she was bright and though she'd taught herself a lot, the fact that she hadn't gotten through high school shamed her. She never saw all the good things she did for us as being extraordinary--a mom did stuff like that. She taught both my brother and me to cook, to clean house, to take care of ourselves because everyone needed to know those things. She was a friend and a companion, a mother and helper.

I still miss you, mom. And I still love you.


Why God Made Moms

Answers given by 2nd grade school children to the following questions:

Why did God make mothers?
1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
2. Mostly to clean the house.
3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.

How did God make mothers?
1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
3. God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just used bigger parts.

What ingredients are mothers made of ?
1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice
in the world and one dab of mean.
2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they mostly use
string, I think.

Why did God give you your mother and not some other mom?
1. We're related.
2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's moms like me.

What kind of little girl was your mom?
1. My mom has always been my mom and none of that other stuff.
2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty bossy.
3. They say she used to be nice.

What did Mom need to know about Dad before she married him?
1. His last name.
2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get
drunk on beer?
3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores?

Why did your mom marry your dad?
1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my mom eats a lot.
2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
3. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.

Who's the boss at your house?
1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because dad's such a goofball.
2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff under the bed.
3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than Dad.

What's the difference between Moms and Dads?
1 . Moms work at work and work at home and Dads just go to work at work.
2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
3. Dads are taller and stronger, but Moms have all the real power
'cause that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at your
friend's.
4. Moms have magic; they make you feel better without medicine.

What does your mom do in her spare time?
1. Mothers don't do spare time.
2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.

What would it take to make your mom perfect?
1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of
plastic surgery.
2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.

If you could change one thing about your mom, what would it be?
1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get rid of that.
2. I'd make my mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who
did it and not me.
3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on the back
of her head.

3 comments:

Skylar Masey said...

Lynda,

I'm so sorry to hear about you having lost your mom. I can't imagine what I'll do when I lose mine. She's gotten a little paranoid, and now every time she goes on a trip she points out her green, monogrammed bag, and tells me everything I need to know is in there. I think this came from having to tie up all the lose ends of my Dad's estate. But to me it seems a little morbid.

[Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.]
I love this line! You can tell this little girl or boy is already learning to cook and use his/her imagination!

Lynda K. Scott said...

Thanks, Skylar. Losing my mom was one of the hardest experiences I've had. All the poems and inspirational stories we see on the Internet are absolutely right. No one can replace your mother.

Wasn't that a great line? Our competition is coming right along, isn't it? :D

Bernadette Gardner and Jennifer Colgan said...

Great post, Lynda and a wonderful tribute to your Mom.