Monday, June 18, 2012

Guest - Mona Karel


Good morning all! We have guest Mona Karel visiting us today with an interesting perspective on writing. Enjoy!

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Do NOT Get Between Me and My Book
Mona Karel

            I recently took a break from writing to vacation in one of my “other worlds,” spending a week at a large gathering of my favorite breed of dog.  This included five days driving to and from, and no real time (or inclination actually) to write.

            A brief rest after arriving home, and I was ready to tackle that work in progress. I opened my e-mail to a message from someone I’ve know for decades, dredging up past slights and bizarre accusations.  I know this person isn’t the most balanced of my acquaintances, and thought I could shrug off her rants.  In fact I thought I had.  Instead I stewed over the memories she dug up out of my past, and examined every one of her accusations for truth.  And...I didn’t write.

            Obviously I was more tired from the trip than I realized.  It took two full days to realize I had allowed her the power to come between me and my book.  For years I fought my job, my life, and myself to put writing first.  Lo and behold, first chance I had, I let this nonsense take over one of the most important components of my life.

            Maybe all writers aren’t intrinsically insecure. I’ve met many, long term and new, published or unpublished, who believe completely in themselves and their words.  Naturally I measured myself against them, and found myself just not quite up to their strength. Foolish, yes, but knowing myself has become the first step toward making myself a better person, and writer. I’m not them, I’m me.  No worse, no better.

            If you managed to stay with me throughout this whine, then may I offer this bit of advice.  Do NOT let anyone, including yourself, get between you and your book.  We want to write well but we need to write often and the rest will come along as we allow ourselves to be the writers we are meant to be.  I will now stumble off my soapbox and get back to writing, after I introduce you briefly to Bethany Acton, a writer of all things, who is a main character in my most recent book, Teach Me To Forget.  Bethany never suffers from writer’s block–hey, we can all dream!



Teach Me To Forget

Her past was behind her...or so she’d thought.

Bethany Acton has come a long way from the day she was an abused child-bride of a dissolute jet setter. Now divorced and single, she writes for a lifestyles magazine, lives out of her motor home, and answers only to her boss—when he can find her. She has overcome her horrendous past and taken control of her own life. But when Jonathan Merritt, a rising star in wildlife photography, enters her world, she learns that control is a tenuous thing.

His past was despicable, but it hasn’t affected his future...until now.

Jonathan knows he has met the woman with whom he wants to spend his future, but first he must admit his role in her past. Afraid the truth will turn her against him, he tries to gain her trust and affection before confessing. But the longer he hesitates, the harder it becomes to tell her. Can Jonathan gain enough of her love and trust for her to forgive what he did—or will his past indiscretions destroy his only chance for happiness?

10 comments:

Monica Stoner said...

Hi Lynda, thanks for hosting me today
Mona

Vonnie Davis said...

How nice to meet you, Mona. Your post or "whine," as you called it resonated with me. I come from the generation when women were taught "self-praise stinks." Is it any wonder we feel insecure about anything we tackle? The younger generation is more self-assured, I think. I, too, allowed everything and everyone else to come before my writing. Afterall, writing was a self-indulgent time drain. Right? No, being a writer is who I am. So what if I was 63 before my first book was published. I am a writer and I love it. So, like you, I shout, "Don't get between me and my writing." Best of luck to you.

Lynda Frazier said...

I loved your post and I understand how an e-mail can irritate you, getting in the way of your writing. I loved your excerpt and know I will enjoy this story. So keep writing I will be waiting fr more.
Thanks for sharing
Lynda

Monica Stoner said...

Hi Vonnie, I only beat you by a couple of years for my first published book! So we're probably dealing with the same cultural issues: Ladies don't brag???
Lynda, thanks for the kind words. Love your blog site

Julie Robinson said...

I understand your post completely and love the way you put it: "Maybe all writers aren't intrinsically insecure." It sort of hit me over the head that Yes, I am, and it's ok, because i'm not alone and look at all the other people who fight it and overcome it. And that yes, I have been comparing myself.
Thanks for the post.

Julie Robinson said...

P.S. Congrats on the release of your novel. The blurb is great and reminds me of a ceramic I have on my near my writing desk that says: "Never let your memories be greater than your dreams." And I DO get between myself and my writing dream, finding all sorts of other things to do . ..

Bev Irwin / Kendra James said...

Hi Mona. Oh the things we do to ourselves and our self-esteem and then lose sight of our dreams.

Julianne said...

Congrats on the release of your novel, Mona! Thanks for your post. I've been there, before too--albeit in different scenario. Thanks for the kick in the pants. :) Good luck to you with all you do!

Mona Karel said...

Thanks everyone! And thanks again to Lynda for having me over to visit. We sure do get between ourselves and success, don't we?

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