Wednesday, December 07, 2011

Guest - Sidney Ayers

Good morning all! I hope your Christmas plans are coming along nicely. If not, remember the reason for the season isn't the gifting or grand parties. Your family and friends will love you just as much if you don't become frazzled ;-)

Now on to our guest, author Sidney Ayers, who'll be talking about how she handles the writers life. Enjoy!

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I think I’m kind of lucky when it comes to my writing life. I’m single and I don’t have any kids, but I do have five nieces and nephews that give me my kid fix. My family knows that writing is my life and job. They’re some of the most supportive people I know. It’s give and take, though. Sometimes my family needs me, yet they know that I need alone time too. It’s  an understandable  balance, I guess.

My routines had been  varied. Sometimes I wrote in the morning, sometimes at night. Whenever my muse struck, I try and accommodate him or her. I have more than one muse, and that, in and of itself, can make things difficult. Unfortunately, that is a topic for another blog. Sometimes, this varied schedule caused issues. I found myself forcing myself to write when my brain was ready to go vegetate.  All I ended up with was a huge migraine that even Excedrin couldn’t touch.

What I’ve done is set up an actual schedule. I’ve allotted a set amount of time for writing, editing, lunch, and of course free time. This allows me to be accountable and on schedule. I’ve discovered that setting aside a particular amount of hours a day for writing works better than  chaining myself to the keyboard until I write a set amount of words a day.  I post the schedule where everyone can see. That way, my family knows when  I’m working and when  have free time. I’m on a steep deadline right now, so they all know how important my writing time is. I know it may seem kind of tacky, but it works for me and my family. It keeps me productive and the tensions considerably lower. Of course, if there’s an emergency, I will find a way to work around the schedule.  Family should always come first, after all.

How do you as writers and or working parents balance your careers and family?


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-- Lynda Again
    It's always interesting to see how some writers allocate time between their writing and their family. Thanks Sidney for sharing your routine.
    I've posted a review of Sidney's latest book, Demons Like It Hot, that you may be interested in. To see it, click here.

    Have a Blessed Day!

6 comments:

Alexa said...

I'm single too so I don't have family stress. I tend to give myself goals for the week, that way if one night I'm too exhausted to work, I can make it up later.

Victoria said...

I'm a reader not a writer but when my first child was born I was working 10 14 hr days 6 days a week. I was also a single mom so it was really hard. Some how it all came together though. When I married my hubs and the second boy came along I quit work and found I got less done. They're all grown up now. The youngest is 19 1/2 and to this day I still can't figure out where the time in a day goes :).
Thank you so much.

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Sidney Ayers said...

Alexa, I pretty much do that too, but I suffer from adult ADD and have a tendency to--uh--get unfocused. LOL

Sidney Ayers said...

Victoria, that's always how it goes. I accomplished more when I was working full time than I did when I was unemployed. I guess it's more common than I thought. LOL

Julie Robinson said...

Hi Sidney,

I enjoyed hearing about your writing 'schedule.' I, too, do not like to be chained to a certain amount of words a day, though I tried to do it for Nano. And I have failed at trying to write during certain times, say from 9 a.m. - 11 a.m. I finally realized that because I don't like a schedule, it's better for me to allot so much time per day, no matter when I do it. Works out better that way 'cause I can set my own schedule. My part-time job allows me that too, which allows me to work at all hours of the night if I wanted.

Glad you have a supportive family!

mondal said...

I was a single mom so it was really hard. Some how it all came together though. When I married my hubs and the second boy came along.

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